Let my Life be the Proof Of Your Love!
I’m gonna be talking about a sensitive topic for the next bit- love… Yeah, I know, I’m not qualified, and yes I am single. And yes, there is pressure (I guess, unseen from myself!) to ‘be in a relationship’ with someone, simply because my parents were married at a young age, similar to how old I am now. Maybe this pressure is warranted, maybe it isn’t. But as I have recently thought about the topic of love, and also read through some chapters and verses to see what the Bible says about love, a few things came to me. So, I guess you could all take what I am saying to heart, or you could choose not to. However, let me point a few things out to you, and hopefully stir up some things inside of you and ask some pointy questions.
How many types of love are there? Yeah, I know, silly question… but, seriously, let that sit with you for a moment. In the Bible God mentions a few types of love, and the concept is driven home in various points in scripture. We are called to have unconditional love to our Maker, to Jesus; and also love between friends, family, as well as an intimate love between your spouse. So now that we’ve all cleared everything and agreed that love can exist on 4 different levels, which one does the world talk about? Well, on some level, we hear about all the types of love, the topic being present in movies, mainstream songs, books, work and social conversations, and even Christian songs have a mainstream focus once in a while about failed or successful relationships (take most of Mac Powell’s solo album!). But while all of these attributes of love are welcome in this world, and at different times in our lives necessary, even as a Christian, what does pure love look like? Any takers?
I haven’t had the experience yet of falling in love, and knowing beyond the shadow of a doubt that I have met the person God wants me to spend the rest of my life with. And there’s a very simple reason for that- it’s not in God’s timing yet. And I am cool with that. Sometimes in this world, it’s tough to break out of what society says should be the norm. They say ‘you should have a girlfriend/boyfriend in high school’; ‘You should sleep around and date as many people as possible’. But often those stereotypical ‘truths’ that we have been fed are lies that are disguised by the devil. What makes a lie so good though? It’s because there is temptation, it’s because the alternative to living in God’s plan is made to sound ‘better’. But, as I am once again reminded in Mark 10:6-8, something happens to our spirits when we are in love and devotion to our soulmate- we become one, and it is no longer ‘myself’ and ‘my spouse’. It is ‘us’, and that is something very special. Not that I want to sound ancient or anything, but let me tell you this- I have not dated, nor do I feel the urge to until God shows me the one whom he has made for me. I know, that sounds cheesy, but it is a commitment that I have made to myself, partly inspired by singer Rebecca St James’ pledge and choice of abstinence. I’ve figured, God knows best, and it’s all in his timing, and this is a perfect time, that while I’m waiting for my future wife to be revealed to me; to bask in God’s love, and know the perfect Love that Jesus has for me first. Yeah, I guess I could hypothetically fall into and out of any relationship, but would that love last? Pure love is unconditional love- you’d have to be very committed to that relationship, through any circumstance. Basically, would you be willing to die for them?
So what was your answer? I guess most of you, in the heat of the moment, would say yes, I would die for ___ (my girlfriend/boyfriend, fiancé, spouse, children, friends, siblings, parents, whatever you want to put in there…); but let me throw a spanner in the works. Would you die for your enemy? Say what? You heard me! The bully who picked on you at school for being fat? The one who blamed you in university for cheating on an exam when it was him who cheated off you? The one who stabbed you in the back when things weren’t going their way, the one who deserted you when you told them you were a Christian? Yeah, that person. There may be 4 forms of love that Jesus speaks about, and we all may be masters of those kinds of love (after all, it is easy to love those who seem like nice people…), but what about those who wronged you? Yeah, I reckon that would be very difficult. I mean very, very difficult. I guess you could forgive them if the situation called for it (more on forgiveness in another blog), but loving the person?
One of Jesus’ commandments, in Matthew 22:36-40 was “Love the Lord Your God, with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength, and Love you neighbour as yourself”. (See how it doesn’t say ‘love your friend’?), and in another part of the Bible, in Galatians 5: 22-23, Paul, an apostle, speaks about the Fruits of the Spirit, of which one is Love. But how does that relate to someone loving someone difficult? How do we do that? With God’s strength. And we look to Jesus, who exhibits his perfect Love, to His whole creation, even the unsavoury characters. Jesus is the embodiment of true Love. Once we grasp this, and once we realise that to love someone truly is the same way as we love Jesus, and how we perceive ourselves, and grapple with how Jesus love us unconditionally (so much that He died on the cross for us), then our perspective is definitely going to change. When we know the infinite love God has for us, it will be easier to love others; in whatever capacity we want to, because we know the One who first loved us, while we were still sinners, is with us every step of the way. And in those times when we don’t feel like loving people, for whatever reason, then God will step in, and with His love, His eternal and unending love, we can love others, with an ability that will be easier than before. I’m not saying you’ll become best buddies with your worst enemy overnight, but with God’s help and His presence in your life, anything is possible.
Sometimes I wonder what it would be like to be in a relationship with someone- and Dad and Mum constantly remind us that when they were my age, they were engaged. However, God’s love and just soaking in His presence has given me peace and I don’t have to be worried. Until such a time that is planned, when God wants me to meet my future spouse, I will keep on loving anyone I can, with Jesus in me.
There’s a verse in the Bible that has struck out to me (1 Corinthians 13), about love, and just today, a band called “For KING AND COUNTRY”, from Australia, filmed a music video to a song about this verse. It’s a very captivating video that you can watch above, or read lyrics below, with the video presenting a dystopia in a society void of love. Reminding me of how people were trapped inside a ‘prison’ in the movie ‘The Island’; this confronting video speak to us, about what would life look like if we were disillusioned with the world’s view of love. We’d be lost, and in a world where everything is relative, and there would be no moral standards. I wouldn’t want to live in a world like that, would you?
What does perfect love look like to you? Who do you love that you need to remind to them or tell them? This life is very short, and in the blink of an eye, this world will disappear. So, while we are on this Earth, let us love without reservation, and let us love with the love Jesus Christ has given to us. Let the world see our love through our actions. Whether it is to our parents, siblings, friends, spouse, our ememies (I know, it’s tough…), or even a stranger; when it all comes down to it, in the end of our lives, only love will remain.
Who do you want to love today? With God’s help, our lives can be the proof of God’s love that is bubbling out of us!
Until next time
Josh
If I sing but don’t have love
I waste my breathe with every song
I bring, an empty voice
A hollow noise
If I speak with a silver tongue
Convince a crowd but don’t have love
I leave a bitter taste
With every word I say
(Chorus)
So let my life be the proof
The proof of Your love
Let my love look like You
And what You’re made of
How you lived, how You died
Love is sacrifice
So let my life be the proof
The proof of Your love
If I give to a needy soul
But don’t have love then who is poor
It seems all the poverty
Is found in me
Chorus
So let my life be the proof
The proof of Your love
Let my love look like You
And what You’re made of
How you lived, how You died
Love is sacrifice
So let my life be the proof
The proof of Your love
Ooh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh
When it’s all said and done
Ooh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh
When we sing our final song
Only love remains
Only love remains
If I speak with human eloquence and angelic ecstasy but don’t love, I’m nothing but the creaking of a rusty gate. If I speak God’s Word with power, revealing all his mysteries and making everything plain as day, and if I have faith that says to a mountain, “Jump,” and it jumps, but I don’t love, I’m nothing. If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don’t love, I’ve gotten nowhere. So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I’m bankrupt without love. (1 Corinthians 13:1-7, The Message)
-for KING & COUNTRY- ‘The Proof Of Your Love’, from the 2012 album “Crave”